As a North Carolina wedding photographer, one of the questions I often get is, “Should we have a first look on our wedding day?” While there is no right or wrong answer, this decision comes down to what is most important to you and your partner on your big day!
Sticking to the tradition of seeing each other as you walk down the aisle is always so special. However, there are many practical benefits to having a first look! Here are the reasons why you should consider having a first look on your wedding day.
What is a “First Look”?
First of all, what is a first look? A first look is a private moment for just you and your partner before your wedding ceremony. Usually, only your photographer (and videographer, if you have one) is there to document the moment as you see each other for the first time. You can also use this time to exchange special gifts, private vows, or love letters without anyone else around.
While many brides dream of their groom having an emotional reaction when they walk down the aisle, I find that is not usually the case! Some grooms wear their hearts on their sleeves and express their emotions no matter what, while others get very nervous with a crowd of people watching. It’s important to consider both of your personalities and what would make you most comfortable when deciding if you want a first look or not. A private can feel more relaxed for most people and allow you to get emotional without the pressure of walking down the aisle!
Wedding Photography Timeline
Choosing whether or not to have a first look is very important because it will determine the entire flow of your day. If you choose NOT to have a first look, you should plan on taking the majority of formal photos immediately after your ceremony. It only leaves about an hour or so before your reception begins. If you DO have a first look it allows us plenty of time to take your formal portraits before the ceremony. If you have a large wedding party or family I can’t recommend a first look enough!
I will usually begin with portraits of just the two of you together, and then take portraits with your bridal parties and families immediately after. Not only does this allow for plenty of time for photos, but also allows for the possibility of traveling to more locations to get a greater variety of photos if you desire. We will also consider the best times for natural light depending on the season. Learn more about how to prepare for your wedding day photos.
Take Photos When You Look and Feel Your Best
Another benefit to a first look is that your hair and makeup are still fresh, your dress is pristine, and your accessories are perfectly in place. You and your partner will be full of energy and excitement, and your smiles will be genuine and vibrant. This makes for photos that capture you at your absolute best. Remember the portraits are typically the ones you frame or are some of the best from the day so we want to make sure you look and feel your best!
Enjoy More Time with Your Guests
If spending lots of time with your guests and attending your cocktail hour is important to you then be sure to have a first look! By getting most of your formal photos out of the way before the ceremony, you’ll have more time to spend with your guests during cocktail hour and have a drink with your family and friends. After the ceremony, you can still take a few freshly married photos, but without the rush, allowing you to join your loved ones sooner and get to be a part of your day!
Planning for Quiet Moments on Your Wedding Day
A first look provides a much-needed pause before the rush of the day. It’s a moment to breathe, to be fully present, and to take in the significance of what’s about to happen. This moment together can be incredibly grounding and alleviate some of the pre-ceremony jitters. Believe it or not, sometimes this is one of the few moments you get alone with your partner! So take it in!
If you love the idea of the intimacy of a first look, but still want to save the moment of seeing each other for the aisle, consider a first touch instead. This can involve holding hands around a door or wall or standing back-to-back, with eyes closed. This can offer the same calming and intimate benefits without revealing each other before the ceremony. Just being able to talk, hold hands, and share a moment can bring a sense of calm and connection to your special day.
Deciding Whether or Not To Have a First Look
Ultimately, your wedding day is about you! Decide whether or not to have a first look that feels right for both of you. Don’t let tradition, friends, or family dictate your choice! Consider your personalities and genuinely consider how might you feel standing in front of a lot of people. After all, whether you choose a first look or not, the most important thing is that your day reflects what is most important to you and your love story!
Looking for a Raleigh, North Carolina wedding photographer? Reach out to Kim of Infinite Splendor Photography!
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